Yes, And
A mother’s wish.
Leaving the Y many years ago marked the beginning of my quest for authenticity and joy. My mom challenged me to embarked on what I called the “Year of Random Raschel,” a time dedicated to pursuing the things I loved. Mom encouraged me to say “YES” to every opportunity that came my way and to shed the expectations others had imposed on me. It wasn’t easy, but it was filled with moments of profound growth and exhilarating fun.
A couple of weeks before my mother passed away, I found myself sitting by her side, eager to soak up every last moment of wisdom and love. In those precious moments, I asked her every question that crossed my mind, craving the depth of understanding that only a mother can impart. I wished for more time, more questions, knowing deep down that these were our final moments together.
One question, in particular, resonates with me to this day: “Do you have any wishes for me?” Her response pierced through my heart and filled me with a sense of purpose. “Don’t stop saying yes, baby girl,” she said. “I’ve watched you blossom in recent years, simply by saying Yes to the opportunities that come your way. You’ve become more of the woman I love in the world, the woman I’ve always seen, ever since you started living your life with Yes.”
Living a life plagued by doubt and fear can shrink our world, confining us to smallness. I still have days when uncertainty creeps in, when I crave solitude to quiet the noise within. But I’ve also learned to lean into life with greater boldness. I’ve expanded my relationships, deepened my impact on others, and embraced the richness of experience, even when it leads me into uncharted territory.
I owe much of this newfound courage to my mother, who was always excited for me and cheered me on every step of the way. She didn’t just encourage me; she actively helped me make opportunities possible, whether by watching my cat or assisting with research. Though she is no longer with me, her spirit lives on, guiding me toward greater beauty and adventure. Every day, I feel her presence, conspiring for more joy and wonder to grace my life.
